How can I get in touch with you?
Like this:
What’s your goal here?
I started this blog as a way to reach out to the vast, silent masses of disaffected Mormons who were going through the same crisis of faith that I was several years ago. As any ex-Mormon can tell you, the LDS church is rubbish at dealing with doubt and treats questioning believers with contempt and suspicion. I was eventually able to escape the Cult of Salt Lake and am now eager to provide the sort of support to new apostates that was once given to me. I’m happy to be a friendly ear, a shoulder to cry on, and a platform for your anonymous or public voice. I never tell anyone what to do, but I strongly speak out against the superstitions, lies, unfounded claims, poor logic, and abuse that stems from religion.
Where are you?
I travel a lot and when at home I spoof my IP address because I like my privacy. For the time being I am living primarily in California with frequent visits back to the UK. If you are interested in grabbing a pint sometime do let me know and I’ll check my travel schedule to see if I’ll be in your time zone any time soon.
Is your name really Molly?
No. But my temple name is Miriam.
Why don’t you use your real name?
I have nothing to gain by using my real identity here. Ad Hominem attacks are pretty much the weapon of choice for reactionary believers so I want to do everything I can to keep the focus off of me and on my words. Anonymity also allows me to be honest. I have lost or severely damaged most of my family relationships because of my apostasy, and exacerbating that situation means there’s less of a chance of mending things between us.
Why do you hate Mormons?
I don’t hate Mormons. Most of them are decent enough, and many people I love dearly are Mormons. However, I take deep offence at the teachings, policies and practices of the managers and employees of the Corporation of the President and the Corporation of the Presiding Bishop who allege they are God’s One True ChurchTM.
Why do you care so much about gays? What are you, gay or something?
I am straight, probably a zero or one on the Kinsey Scale. My sexuality is unrelated to the fact that the civil rights battle of my generation is for the integration of sexual minorities as full citizens. I do not have to be gay to know that LGBTQ individuals are human beings exactly like me. A bit like how you don’t need to be a minority to be offended by racism, and you do not have to be female to fight sexism. Sorry to disappoint, but my orientation is not a choice, and I can’t stop being who I am deep down inside.
What is your current religious affiliation?
I am unaffiliated. I consider myself a Humanist and have no belief in a supreme being or personal deity of any kind. I categorise the deity of Judaism, Christianity and Islam along with deities like Thor, Krishna, and the Tooth Fairy and am opposed to referring to the cults of defunct deities as “mythological” and the cults of current deities as “religion.” It’s all the same to me.
Do you have a comment policy?
Speak your mind. You are not required to mind your manners, but it’s probably a good idea. So far my readers tend to be intelligent and outspoken, and if you say something stupid and they take you to task for it, don’t expect me to rescue you. I have no problem with commenters who are disagreeable, so long as they are constructively disagreeable. However, I prefer spirited, civil debate. I rarely ban users, and so far have had cause to show the door to only two people. One was a troll who followed the “she was asking for it” fallacy regarding rape, and the other wasted cyberspace with long, babbling, illegible comments of less literary value than viagraspam. If you find yourself suddenly unable to comment, it’s probably because I found you a waste of my time for one of the following behaviours:
- Trolling repeatedly, disrupting conversation with inflammatory, off-topic, or emotional statements.
- Use of logical fallacies, particularly begging the question, straw men, and ad hominem attacks.
- Constantly making an arse of yourself at the expense of my patience and the productivity of the conversation
Why are you so sarcastic and patronising?
I don’t want my British citizenship to be revoked. And you’re pronouncing “patronising” incorrectly.
Molly Muses . . . 
I just found your blog and I must say, bravo. I love to read intelligent people talk about things I also care about. I wish I would have found this site before today. I recently fell in love with a Mormon and in doing so it has turned my life upside down. She left me to go find a Mormon mate in Utah and even though it hurts, I still talk to her every day. I know she’s very smart, too smart to buy the lies based on the words of a rapist con-man, but she is inexplicably devoted to it. I hope someday she can completely open her eyes and if, or when, she does I will direct her to this site. Thank you for making this blog, and thank you for your cogent and well stated writings.
I’m so sorry to hear about your relationship breaking down because of religion. I had to experience a lot of the same thing when most of my family chose the church over me. Hang in there.
Found your site through Main Street Plaza. Just wanted to say, I really enjoy your writing style and humor. You’re definitely not pulling any punches. (P.S. You haven’t by any chance written a novel, have you? I’m looking for a few good ones to publish!)
Thank you, Therese. That’s very flattering. If you’d like to discuss that further please e-mail me at mollymuses at gmail dot com. 🙂
Hey, stumbled upon your blog while doing some research. How do you make Mormons stop harassing you and your family?they’re currently trying to recruit here in Yorkshire and will not stop ringing my bell even though i have told them repeatedly that i am NOT interested in the slightest. 🙂 Even my scary brooklyn/New York accent doesn’t put them off 🙂
Blimey I didn’t know they sent them that far north.
You can tell the Mormons to put you on the do not contact list. That is a very specific term for them. You could also file a complaint with the local council if you feel you are being harassed. Likely they’d be able to warn them away from your house using a law against trespassing.
I am thrilled to have found you. Thank you (especially for the flow chart).
A very refreshing read. I admire your tenacity in working through the challenges you’ve faced. Others have done the same, but many others are still trapped. (My wife’s temple name is Miriam; I hope she doesn’t answer when I call her “Molly”.)
http://www.alwaysbeready.com/mormonism
I was reading through your most recent posts and thought a great trans resource would be my friend Dex. He is amazing, and has documented his transition on his blog. It helped me understand a lot more about trans than I ever did before. http://veganbattlebot.blogspot.com/p/about-me.html
Thanks for your blog. I have left the church, but my wife is still very committed. So, there’s that.