Draft one of my resignation letter. Feedback would be lovely. Next post: Planning the actual strategy. I’m still clinging to the idea that I can do this without losing my entire family. I will probably lose my extended family, but I know I can keep a few siblings and possibly regain my mum at some point. I think my dad will never see me again, and I doubt I’ll ever be welcome back in his house. But the schizophrenia of living with the Church hanging over me is making me mad. As the church becomes ever more bigoted and dishonest, the shame of still being on their roster is getting to me. It’s time to go. Do what is right, let the consequence follow.
This letter is my formal resignation from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and it is effective immediately. I hereby withdraw my consent to being treated as a member and I withdraw my consent to being subject to church rules, policies, beliefs and discipline. As I am no longer a member, I want my name permanently and completely removed from the membership rolls of the church. My information is as follows:
To the best of my knowledge, my membership records were last located in [redacted] under Bishop [redacted].
I have given this matter considerable thought over a period of more than five years. I understand what you consider the seriousness and the consequences of my actions. I am aware that the church handbook says that my resignation cancels the effects of baptism and confirmation and revokes temple blessings. I also understand that I could only be readmitted to the church by baptism only after a thorough interview, although I have no intention of ever doing so. I also forbid the church from rebaptising me by proxy after I am dead.
My resignation should be processed immediately, without any waiting periods. I am not going to be dissuaded and I am not going to change my mind. I expect this matter to be handled promptly, with respect and with full confidentiality. After today, the only contact I want from the church is a single letter of confirmation to let me know that I am no longer listed as a member of the church. I do not wish to be contacted by telephone, e-mail, in person, or by any other means except to receive the letter of confirmation. Do not send me any pamphlets or documents intended to persuade me to reconsider. Any attempts to convene a disciplinary council against me will cause me to consider legal action.
If any reasons are to be recorded as to why I am leaving, they are many. Overall, my values do not match those of the LDS Church. I believe in honesty. The Church lies about its history and hides the revision of its doctrines in its teaching materials, public addresses, and official publications. I believe that men and women are equally valuable as leaders. The Church does not. I believe that race is simply a side effect of genetics. The Church teaches that those with dark skin are the way they are because God cursed their ancestors. The Church privileges whiteness in its scripture, the makeup of its leadership bodies, and its culture. I believe that loving relationships should be honoured regardless of the gender of those who love. The Church teaches that cisgender heterosexuality is compulsory, to the detriment of the well-being of LGBT and straight people. I believe no one should attempt to legislate morality through laws that have no proven secular, civic value. The Church believes in imposing its doctrine on non-members by lobbying for laws that support its beliefs. I believe that if a church decides to become involved in the public sphere, it ought to do so for humanitarian purposes. Instead of leveraging the Church’s considerable resources to vanquish AIDS, poverty, lack of access to education, and starvation, it has decided to wage war on homosexuality. This lack of perspective in determining priorities is shameful and causes the LDS Church to bear no resemblance to the man whose name they place on their chapels.
I have a firm belief that the doctrine preached in LDS chapels and in the temple does not offer what I consider to be a plan of happiness. Had I not been born to this organization, I never would have joined it. I now take the opportunity to correct this issue. The only reason I have not done so sooner is that I know when my family discovers what I have done, they will likely never speak to me again. However, the integrity they taught me to value so highly compels me to no longer remain a member of an organisation that I find morally bankrupt.